I now had an opportunity to reach out and ask for help. Yeah, right. This was so hard. I had so many people willing to help. Picking up that phone and saying - hey can I get a ride to the grocery store was so hard. I longed to just go hop in my car and not involve others. I learned to plan ahead. I walked a lot. I learned flexibility. When one of my children was in need of getting to an activity, suddenly I had the courage to call and ask for a ride.
A group of amazing women in my neighborhood arranged a carpool to pick me up from work for the rest of that year each day. Not only did that physically give me a lift from work - it lifted my spirits immensely. It helped my family who simply couldn't be there for everything. At a time when it all felt rather overwhelming, they stepped in and reminded me how support from our friends lifts us.
Since those early days, there have been many wonderful people who have stepped in and become part of our team. I am so grateful. Sometimes it may even be a stranger that says - hey do you need some directions as I am standing getting oriented. I have learned a lot about Interdependence -- we all need and help each other. My mom tells me as a little 2 1/2 year old when she offered to help I told her, I can do it on my own! I appreciate my spunk and determination, however, I also appreciate the growth and connections that have been formed as I've learned the value in having and being a member of a team of support. We can't do life on our own!